Having someone believe in you, your dreams, your passion, your mission, your ideas, or your purpose is an amazing feeling. It provides us with that extra boost we need when we face those inevitable bumps in the road.
If you have someone, or many people (or cats) surrounding you and rooting you on, that is amazing and you are in such a great place!
But what if you find yourself on the opposite side of the spectrum one day?
There are some of us that may face a time or two (or many more) in our lives where we find ourselves alone. It may be alone as in not having someone else around. Alone as in not having someone else to believe in our dreams. Alone as in not having someone to talk to about how we are feeling because they are unable to relate, or there isn’t someone around.
Today I want to talk to those who may be in that alone space or have walked down that path in the past.
We all dream.
Not dream as in when we are asleep or catnapping, but dream about how we would like things to be. We dream about having things we do not have. We dream about our body looking different than it does today. We dream about living a life that we currently do not live. And so on.
But every once in a while, a dream or an idea will spark and set something on fire within us.
And that could be anything, really. Maybe you want to earn more money, so you start a business. Maybe you want to get healthier, so you make new choices on what you eat. Maybe you want to learn about a new subject that interests you, so you make time to learn and dive in with all four paws.
Or maybe you want to save the world. . .
Whatever that spark is, I highly encourage you to fan it to ignite your fire. Because if you don’t, that spark will quickly fade to black and you are left without a fire. Yes, they come and go. There have been many and there will be more.
But when was the last time that you decided to take action on one of your sparks and really went for it?
Your dreams are worth it. You are worth it.
But I get it. Sometimes we let those sparks die off because you may not have anyone to share it with. You may not have anyone to bounce ideas off of. You may not have someone to help pick you up if you stumble. You may not have anyone to share your dreams of this new thing you are excited about with.
Whenever you find yourself on that path, it’s not easy.
Let’s be real. It stinks worse than a 5-day old used litter box. Yuck.
Now I will admit, as you’ll read all about in my book “RYKO”, I have walked down that path a few times.
And yes, I’ll even admit that I had my fair share of hosting pity parties for myself. But looking back now, I’ve come to realize something very important that I wanted to share with you.
During those times when I was truly alone, when I had no one to share my dreams with, and literally no one around me for miles and miles, I continued to look around for someone. Anyone.
And the more I looked for someone outside, the more separated I started to feel from my dreams, goals, and purpose.
Yes. I’ll admit. I even gave up a few times.
That whole process does not lead to good places. For those who have been there, I need not explain.
But after a pretty wild series of events that happened to me, I had no other choice to turn my focus from searching on the outside for someone, to searching for someone on the inside.
Luckily, I only found one cat inside of me. (That would have been really weird if I had found more.)
And at that very moment, things started to change.
I started asking myself questions. I started to wonder if I could become my #1 fan and push myself, support myself, and most importantly, believe in myself?
Something funny started to happen as I realized that I could do all of these things, and so much more. . .
I started to believe it.
And feel it.
And before I knew it, that little fire that had turned into nothing but a pile of coals was burning again, hotter than ever before. Come to find out, I was walking down all the paths searching for someone who was right there all along. Me. Ryko.
When I realized that I could very easily be that “someone“, not only did the world around me change, but the most important world of them all changed.
My inner world.
My “self-talk” started to sing a different tune. Before, my top self-talk songs were, “You’re not good enough”, or “You can’t do this”, or “You will fail”, or “You don’t know enough”, or “What would others think?” or “Now is not the time”… (Which were all #1 hits that played all the time on the self-talk radio in my head.)
But before I knew it, new songs started to play. Songs like, “You are good enough”, “I believe in myself”, “You can do this Ryko”, “I no longer fear failure”, “I don’t care what others think of me”, “I am never alone because I have me”, and my new favorite song that I turn up all the way when it comes on, “I truly love myself”.
Slowly, before I realized what was happening, that loneliness feeling started to become more and more distant. Who would have thought that during the times I found myself alone, that I could have been that “someone” who saves the day and kept me focused, motivated, running towards my dreams, but most of all… Feel loved?
I truly believe there is something here. Some lesson to learn or wisdom to gain. Maybe self-love is one of the secrets to living the Whisker Life?
After all, if self-love can erase that loneliness feeling, help us stay on track, stay motivated, stay focused, keep us running towards our goals. . .
What else can self-love do for us?
What’s (self) love got to do with it?
If you know or have any ideas, I’d love to read your comments below!
Love (for both you and me),